We had the same problem with the paci. It was like an addiction and she did not want to give it up! One day we just lost it, in the house none the less, and she just had to deal with it being gone. Every once in awhile she’ll find one around the house and we walk right to the trash can and throw it away and say “yucky, big girl’s don’t need pacis”. This worked for us. Hope you can find something that will work for you.